Wednesday, November 20, 2013

What is a Triad Lunch? And Why You Should Have One.

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What is a Triad lunch?  Basically it's a fancy label for a 3 person lunch, but why is it important?  And what's so magical about the number 3?

Well 3 years ago this month, my company actually learned about the importance of triads from Dave Logan and Tribal Leadership.  And thus, my first triad was born.  It was during an employee development day, when they told us to break up into groups of 3.  I looked around and saw my friend Ryan in IT.  We did the customary head nod.  One partner found.  I looked the other way and saw Darissa in Sales.  We exchanged smiles.  Found my third.  And the rest is history.  Lol, well not really, but it did turn out really well.

So what makes a Triad successful?  Well, the long and short of it is that when you have 3 people, you tend to be more productive and accountable.  Think about it.  Ever tell your friend you wanted to meet her at the gym or go on a run.  Did you ever meet up or call each other right before and tell her you were tired and ask if you wanted to go shopping or catch a movie instead?  Or did you both agree to just pass altogether?

Enter the triad.  If there were 3 of you, and one of you suggested a movie instead of running, then it should follow that at least one of you would be like "No, guys we should really run today."  At least, that's the idea.  You hedge your bets by have 2 others trying to be healthy instead of just one.

So What Makes a Great Triad?
Here are some tips to keep in mind when putting one together:
  1. Ask what do we want to accomplish?  There should be a goal in mind.  In my first triad, we were asked to brainstorm what the barriers were to accomplishing our smart goals.  Each of us shared what our goals were and what road blocks we were running into at work.  
  2. What resources or strengths do we bring to the table?  Figure out what each of your strengths are.  Ryan is in IT, I am in HR, and Darissa is in Sales.  We each have great complimentary backgrounds and experience.  We leverage this when analyzing each other's problems.  We can provide unique and innovative insights because of it.
  3. What specific actions are necessary to accomplish our goal?  Ideally, after brainstorming, you'll be able to lay out specific action items for you to accomplish your goal.  
  4. Shared values.  This is self-explanatory.  At least, I hope it is.
So let's pull the running example back in, since all of us want to be healthier but don't always have the will power to do so.
  1. We want to be healthier.  Maybe we each want to lose 10 lbs.  Put it in writing.
  2. What are we each good at?  Maybe one person has trained for a marathon before and can help set the pace and training schedule.  Maybe you're good at researching and planning, then you can pick different trails to run and pick out the dates to meet up.
  3. Who's going to be responsible for what?  Maybe someone is in charge of suggesting meal options or bringing water to hydrate on the runs.  Someone else can bring a pedometer or download an app to track how far you have run.
  4. You're all in this together and care about each other's progress.  You can act as cheerleader for both parties.  Check in with each other and help one another achieve your health goals.
See how easy it is?  You can apply this to anything.

And the BEST PART is that our personal triad had the best kind of ending, at least in my mind.  When we first formed, we had scheduled a triad lunch, and I forget why, but I had to cancel.  I know, poor example setting right?  Well Darissa and Ryan kept the meeting anyways and went to lunch (see the accountability despite my flakiness?).  Fast forward 3 years, and the two of them are engaged to be married.  So I like to think everything happens for a reason :)

So the next time you'd like to mix it up or boost your productivity, try a triad.  Host a blog hop with 2 other people, agree to workout in threes, you name it.  Have fun and be sure to come back and tell me about it!

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  1. this is a great idea Raina! I need to find my triad pillar of power!

  2. If you want any ideas or suggestions, let me know. We should do lunch together one of these days :)

  3. Ahhh! I love that they are engaged now ^_^ Such a sucker for romance...I'd never heard of this positive triad concept. I'd always heard that if there are 3 friends instead of just 2, one will end up being "ganged up" on by the other 2. hahaha


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