As a type-A everything - mom, wife, HR professional, daughter, sister, you name it, it is really hard for me to be vulnerable and accept being less than perfect. To me, it sometimes feels like accepting less than perfect is somehow like giving up, and giving up never sits well with me. I am learning though that it can be a strength to embrace being "imperfect."
I know, I know. It sounds like a "duh" epiphany but I think, especially when it comes to being a new mother, enough people do not talk about how hard it is. Or if they do talk about it, it is more in a "right of passage" sort of way. Meaning, all new moms have to go through it. We did it, and we survived, so suck it up.
And do not get me wrong, I am not looking for a pity party or anything. I just think it would be nice if more moms would share their vulnerable moments, because I think it is in those vulnerable moments, those crying on the bathroom floor moments that new moms like to know they are not alone.
My husband and I Personally Sought Out Couples' Counseling. My husband and I noticed we had been arguing a lot more than usual and our relationship had more tension than it ever had before the baby. We took advantage of my company's Employee Assistance Program (EAP). Most companies offer one free of charge with your benefits. Our program included 6 free counseling sessions. I wish more people would be open to seeking therapy, and I also wish therapy was something people did not feel ashamed for seeking. Even when I mentioned the idea of writing this post to my family, they questioned my decision to share that I went to counseling. I told them they had missed the whole point of my post, because I want other moms to know that it is okay to go to therapy. It does not mean you are weak or crazy. It means you are going through a major life change while sleep deprived, and yes, you could benefit from a third party mediating conversations with your husband, because he too, is sleep deprived and going through a major life change.